What Does Love Look Like?
Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient. Love is kind.”
Honestly, friends, Paul the Apostle gave us a mouthful right there. Like you, I have encountered some people who were anything but patient and kind. More like mean, snippy, condemning, arrogant. Hateful, irritable, manipulative. Ouch. I have been that person a time or ten, as well.
LOVE IS NOT A FEELING
Did you notice that these qualities of love aren’t feelings? It doesn’t say love “feels patient” or love “feels kind.” Quite the opposite! These are words of action. Love is ACTIVE. Love is expressed in the quality of our words and deeds.
Have you ever noticed that people relax when they feel loved?
What would happen if we got active about expressing love to our kids and mate?
Instead of ignoring or criticizing and condemning, we could speak gratitude and life. We could acknowledge God’s love and care instead of treating people like objects and obstacles to our own wants and demands.
God’s love is the most powerful force in the universe. Learning to live a life of love requires us to be honest and submissive to the heart of God. We have to let go of blame and anger and pride and fear to make room for it.
LOVE IS PRACTICAL
Love is patient means love doesn’t give up. Love waits CHEERFULLY. How long will I love? How long will I be of good cheer? How long will I keep giving?
Love is kind. It’s tender. It is committed to the good of the other. Not hard, harsh or demanding.
What does a loving facial expression look like? Can others see kindness and patience in my eyes when I look at them?
What does a loving tone of voice sound like? Can others hear kindness and patience when I speak?
Do you know how to recognize when you are slipping out of an attitude of genuine love with your family members?
PERHAPS YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN
Could it be that you are forgetting how deeply God loves you? Perhaps if you could begin with His deep love for you, it would become more natural to love others in the same way. It’s important. These actions of mine will live long after I am gone.
If you don’t know how to love, or are burnt out, there is good news for you. You can learn to love. Neither the defects of your family nor your immature or selfish choices need ruin the life ahead of you. You can learn, because the truth is, our Father in Heaven is patient and kind.
We would love for you to share your thoughts, fears, struggles or questions today!
~ Grace and peace, Pastor Lisa West
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